Have been really troubled since yesterday so I kept thinking to myself. Its so easy for anyone of us to get so caught up in our social lives so much that you might end up finding yourself trying to please others around you. Im not saying its a completely bad thing, but it sure has it limits. If its to the extent where you feel uncomfortable that you're doing this then yeap time to do something about it huh? And you might not even feel like you're who you used to be anymore, in extreme cases. So this is just a daily reminder to myself and everyone to just be yourself, because of what is stated below in the blog post haha. It's not worth it to please someone else when you're the one suffering. Think for yourself, at least. Think practically.
You can't please everyone. When you're too focused on living up to other people's standards, you aren't spending enough time raising your own. Some people may whisper, complain and judge. But for the most part, it's all in your head. People care less about your actions than you think. Why? They have their own problems!
Extracted what I feel the most important points from an article I came across:
4. If it doesn’t make you happy, then it isn’t worth doing.
Pleasing other people, at the very least, should please you simultaneously. If you find that pleasing other people is making you miserable, you clearly shouldn’t be trying to please them.Life is too short to allow yourself to be miserable, especially when there are much better options.
8. Life has a lot more to offer when you play by your own rules.
The greatest, most successful, most powerful and influential individuals who have ever walked the earth lived in realities of their own creation.They not only played by their own rules, they made the rest of the world play by theirs as well.If you believe that you’re right strongly enough, you’ll be surprised how many people you can convince the same. Most call these people visionaries — people whose vision of reality was so strong that other people started to see the world in the same manner.
16. Those who truly love you and care about you will always be pleased when you’re simply being yourself.
They love you for being you. They don’t want you to please them all the time because they know that would require you to be someone you’re really not. It’s those who want you to constantly change and constantly adhere to their rules, who don’t know how to appreciate you for the wonderful person you are.
Time to continue mugging for finals, 1 last day! All the best to those who bother to read this :)